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Stop Doing These Harmful Things If You Want To Be Much Happier
By Mikelle Leow, 12 Jun 2017
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Many people spend their lives trying to be happy. They toil through hours of hard work, ruthlessly compete in the rat race, and sometimes even wait to strike the joy lottery. What they don’t realize is that for every teardrop shed, an ounce of happiness is lost.
Jeff Haden of Inc. has written a thought-provoking piece on the track to happiness. He details the things people shouldn’t do in exchange for a passing phase of deliria; instead, one should focus on the long term.
“Happiness isn’t always about what you do. Happiness is often about what you don’t do,” he adds.
Read on to learn about some counteractive things people often do that could prevent them from attaining lifelong happiness. Check out Haden’s full article for more.
Equating possession with satisfaction
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That “aaah” feeling you get after you purchase new furniture or clothes? It’s addictive—simply because it goes away too quickly. You’ll end up buying more stuff to get the sensation back, but no matter how many times you try to recoup the sense of loss, you’ll wake up the next morning with a feeling of emptiness again.
“Real, lasting satisfaction comes from doing, not from having,” Haden explains. “Want to feel good about yourself? Help someone. Knowing you’ve made a difference in another person’s life is an ‘aaah’ that lasts forever.”
It’s an addictive cycle, but this time, in a beneficial way.
Letting the fear of disapproval or criticism get to you
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If you’re highly creative and often want to venture onto new and unfamiliar grounds, chances are, people will talk.
The only way to avoid being criticized or judged is to follow what everyone else does. That means living their lives and not yours, and that you’ll never be truly happy.
Treat the fact that people are talking about you as a celebration for your individuality and “a sign that you’re on the right track—your track.”
Check out this infographic, which suggests some helpful ways to fight your fear of failure or rejection.
Waiting for that one big idea
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Here’s the painful truth: you won’t chance upon the big-idea unicorn, so stop waiting and feeling bad about it. Even if that moment arises, will you be able to bring your idea to implementation? Do you have the skillset and funding?
What you do have, however, are plenty of little ideas. You don’t need a big idea if you act on small ideas. That grand epiphany might even come along. Who knows?
Just waiting for everything in general
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“Never wait. For the right time. The right people. The right market. The right something.” The only right time is now.
Find out five more things you shouldn’t do if you want to be happier by reading the full article on Inc.
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